The Independent Grammar School: Durham



Keeping Children Safe in Education, 2016 states that ‘Governing bodies and proprietors should ensure their child protection policy includes procedures to minimise the risk of peer on peer abuse and sets out how allegations of peer on peer abuse will be investigated and dealt with’.  The document also states it is most important to ensure opportunities of seeking the voice of the child are heard, ‘Governing bodies, proprietors and school or college leaders should ensure the child’s wishes and feelings are taken into account when determining what action to take and what services to provide.  Systems should be in place for children to express their views and give feedback.  Ultimately, any system and processes should operate with the best interests of the child at their heart.’

While it is recommended that Peer on Peer abuse is part of the Child Protection Policy, due to the sensitive nature and specific issues involved with peer on peer abuse we have completed this separate policy guidance template. 

At The Independent Grammar School: Durham we will seek to ensure that any form of abuse or harmful behaviour is dealt with immediately and consistently to reduce the extent of harm to the young person, with full consideration to the impact on that individual child’s emotional and mental health and well-being.

 Purpose and Aim

 Children and young people may be harmful to one another in a number of ways which would be classified as peer on peer abuse.  The purpose of this policy is to explore the many forms of peer on peer abuse and include a planned and supportive response to the issues. 

 At IGS: Durham we have the following policies in place that should be read in conjunction with this policy:

  ·          Anti-Bullying Policy

·         Child Protection Policy

·         Cyber Bullying Policy

 Framework and Legislation

 This policy is supported by the key principles of the Children’s Act, 1989 that the child’s welfare is paramount.  Another key document that focuses adult thinking towards the views of the child is Working Together, 2015, highlighting that every assessment of a child, “must be informed by the views of the child” and within that “It is important to understand the resilience of the individual child when planning appropriate services”. (Working Together, 2015:23) This is clearly echoed by Keeping Children Safe in Education, 2016 through ensuring procedures are in place in schools and settings to hear the voice of the child. 

  Introduction to abuse and harmful behaviour

 Abusive behaviour can happen to pupils in schools and settings and it is necessary to consider what abuse is and looks like, how it can be managed and what appropriate support and intervention can be put in place to meet the needs of the individual and what preventative strategies may be put in place to reduce further risk of harm.

 Abuse is abuse and should never be tolerated or passed off as “banter” or “part of growing up”.  Equally, abuse issues can sometimes be gender specific e.g. girls being sexually touched/assaulted and boys being subject to initiation/hazing type violence (KCSIE, 2016).  It is important to consider the forms abuse may take and the subsequent actions required.

 Types of abuse

 There are many forms of abuse that may occur between peers and this list is not exhaustive.  Each form of abuse or prejudiced behaviour is described in detail followed by advice and support on actions to be taken.

 Physical abuse e.g. (biting, hitting, kicking, hair pulling etc.)

 Physical abuse may include, hitting, kicking, nipping, shaking, biting, hair pulling, or otherwise causing physical harm to another person.  There may be many reasons why a child harms another and it is important to understand why a young person has engaged in such behaviour, including accidently before considering the action or punishment to be undertaken.

 Sexually harmful behaviour/sexual abuse e.g. (inappropriate sexual language, touching, sexual assault etc.)

 Sexually harmful behaviour from young people is not always contrived or with the intent to harm others.  There may be many reasons why a young person engages in sexually harmful behaviour and it may be just as distressing to the young person who instigates it as well as the young person it is intended towards.  Sexually harmful behaviour may range from inappropriate sexual language, inappropriate role play, to sexually touching another or sexual assault/abuse.

 Bullying (physical, name calling, homophobic etc.)

 Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behaviour among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behaviour is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both young people who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems. 

 In order to be considered bullying, the behaviour must be aggressive and include:

 An Imbalance of Power: Young people who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.

Repetition: Bullying behaviours happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.

 Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumours, attacking someone physically or verbally or for a particular reason e.g. size, hair colour, gender, sexual orientation, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.

 Cyber bullying

 Cyber bullying is the use of phones, instant messaging, e-mail, chat rooms or social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter to harass, threaten or intimidate someone for the same reasons as given above.

 It is important to state that cyber bullying can very easily fall into criminal behaviour under the Malicious Communications Act 1988 (section 1) which states that electronic communications which are indecent or grossly offensive, or convey a threat or false information or demonstrate that there is an intention to cause distress or anxiety to the victim would be deemed to be criminal.  This is also supported by the Communications Act 2003, Section 127 which states that electronic communications which are grossly offensive or indecent, obscene or menacing, or false, used again for the purpose of causing annoyance, inconvenience or needless anxiety to another could also be deemed to be criminal behaviour.

 If the behaviour involves the use of taking or distributing indecent images of young people under the age of 18 then this is also a criminal offence under the Sexual Offences Act 2003.  Outside of the immediate support young people may require in these instances, the school will have no choice but to involve the police to investigate these situations.


 Sexting is when someone sends or receives a sexually explicit text, image or video.  This includes sending “nude pics”, “rude pics” or “nude selfies”.  Pressuring someone into sending a nude picture can happen in any relationship and to anyone, whatever their age, gender or sexual preference.

 However, once the image is taken and sent, the sender has lost control of the image and these images could end up anywhere.  By having in their possession indecent images of a person under 18, or distributing them to someone else, young people are unlikely to be aware that they could be breaking the law as these are offences under the Sexual Offences Act 2003.


 Hazing is a form of initiation ceremony which is used to induct newcomers into an organisation such as a private school, sports team etc. There are a number of different forms, from relatively mild rituals to severe and sometimes violent ceremonies.

 The idea behind this practice is that it welcomes newcomers by subjecting them to a series of trials which promote a bond between them. After the hazing is over, the newcomers also have something in common with older members of the organisation, because they all experienced it as part of a rite of passage. Many rituals involve humiliation, embarrassment, abuse, and harassment.

Prejudiced Behaviour

 The term prejudice-related bullying refers to a range of hurtful behaviour, physical or emotional or both, which causes someone to feel powerless, worthless, excluded or marginalised, and which is connected with prejudices around belonging, identity

and equality in wider society – in particular, prejudices to do with disabilities and special educational needs, ethnic, cultural and religious backgrounds, gender, home life, (for example in relation to issues of care, parental occupation, poverty and social class) and sexual identity.

 Teenage relationship abuse

 Teenage relationship abuse is defined as a pattern of actual or threatened acts of physical, sexual, and/or emotional abuse, perpetrated by an adolescent (between the ages of 13 and 18) against a current or former partner. Abuse may include insults, coercion, social sabotage, sexual harassment, threats and/or acts of physical or sexual abuse. The abusive teen uses this pattern of violent and coercive behaviour in order to gain power and maintain control over the partner.

 Expected action taken from all staff

 Although the type of abuse may have a varying effect on the victim and initiator of the harm, these simple steps can help clarify the situation and establish the facts before deciding the consequences for those involved in perpetrating harm.

 It is important to deal with a situation of peer abuse immediately and sensitively.  It is necessary to gather the information as soon as possible to get the true facts around what has occurred as soon as possible and before the child(ren) may have forgotten.  It is equally important to deal with it sensitively and think about the language used and the impact of that language on both the children and the parents when they become involved.  For example, do not use the word perpetrator, this can quickly create a blame culture and leave a child labelled.

 In all cases of peer on peer abuse it is necessary that all staff are trained in dealing with such incidents, talking to young people and instigating immediate support in a calm and consistent manner.  Staff should not be prejudiced, judgmental, dismissive or irresponsible in dealing with such sensitive matters.

 1.         Gather the Facts

 Speak to all the young people involved separately, gain a statement of facts from them and use consistent language and open questions for each account.  The easiest way to do this is not to have a line of questioning but to ask the young people to tell you what happened.  Only interrupt the young person from this to gain clarity with open questions, ‘where, when, why, who’. (What happened? Who observed the incident? What was seen? What was heard? Did anyone intervene?)

 2.         Consider the Intent (begin to Risk Assess)

 Has this been a deliberate or contrived situation for a young person to be able to harm another?

3.         Decide on your next course of action

 If from the information that you gather you believe any young person to be at risk of significant harm you must make a safeguarding referral to social care immediately (where a crime has been committed the police should be involved also).  If this is the case, once social care has been contacted and made a decision on what will happen next then you will be informed of your next steps.

If social care and the police intend to pursue this further they may ask to interview the young people in school or they may ask for parents to come to school to be spoken to also.  It is important to be prepared for every situation and the potential time it may take.

 It may also be that social care feel that it does not meet their criteria in which case you may challenge that decision with the social worker or his/her line manager.  If after discussion however, you agree with the decision, you may then be left to inform parents.

 Informing parents

 If, once appropriate advice has been sought from police/social care you have agreement to inform parents, or have been allocated that role from the other services involved, then you need to inform the parents as soon as possible.  If services are not going to be involved then equally, this information may need to be shared with parents.  If a young person is deemed to be “Gillick Competent” following the Fraser guidelines* and does not wish you to share the information with parents, then the school must consider this especially, for example, if the young person is pregnant and this is why they are being bullied (unless this has occurred through significant harm in which case a criminal/social care case is likely or the young person is under the age of 13). 


 In all circumstances where the risk of harm to the child is evident then the school should encourage the young person to share the information with their parent or even with them (they may be afraid to tell parents that they are being harmed in any way).  Where school can evidence they are acting in the best interests of the young person they would not be criticised.  They would be criticised, however, if they actively breached the rights and choices of the young person.

 The best way to inform parents is face to face.  Although this may be time consuming, the nature of the incident and the type of harm/abuse a young person may be suffering can cause fear and anxiety to parents whether their child is the child who was harmed or who harmed another.

 Points to consider:

 What is the age of the children involved?

 How old are the young people involved in the incident and is there any age difference between those involved?  (In relation to sexual exploration, children under the age of 5, in particular 1-4 year olds who are learning toileting skills may show a particular interest in exploration at around this stage.  This, however should not be overlooked if other issues arise - see following)

 Where did the incident or incidents take place?

 Was the incident in an open, visible place to others? If so was it observed? If not, is more supervision required within this particular area?

 What was the explanation by all children involved of what occurred?

 Can each of the young people give the same explanation of the incident and also what is the effect on the young people involved? Is the incident seen to be bullying for example, in which case regular and repetitive? Is the version of one young person different from another and why?

 What is each of the children’s own understanding of what occurred?

 Do the young people know/understand what they are doing?  For example, do they have knowledge of body parts, of privacy and that it is inappropriate to touch?  Is the young person’s explanation in relation to something they may have heard or been learning about that has prompted the behaviour?  Is the behaviour deliberate and contrived? Does the young person have understanding of the impact of their behaviour on the other person?

 In dealing with an incident of this nature the answers are not always clear-cut.  If you are concerned or unsure as to whether or not there is any risk involved, please seek advice from Children’s Services Social Care.


 Has the behaviour been repeated on more than one occasion?  In the same way it must be considered has the behaviour persisted after the issue has already been discussed or dealt with and appropriately resolved?

 Next Steps

 Once the outcome of the incident(s) has been established it is necessary to ensure future incidents of abuse do not occur again and consider the support and intervention required for those involved. 

 For the young person who has been harmed

 What support they require depends on the individual young person.  It may be that they wish to seek counselling or one to one support via a mentor.  It may also be that they feel able to deal with the incident(s) on their own or with support of family and friends.  In that case, it is necessary that the young person continues to be monitored and offered support should they require it in the future.  If the incidents are of a bullying nature, the young person may need support in improving peer groups/relationships with other young people or some restorative justice work with all those involved may be required.

 Other interventions that could be considered may target a whole class or year group, for example a speaker on cyber bullying, relationship abuse etc.  It may be that through the continued curriculum of assemblies, PSHE, circle time etc. certain issues can be discussed and debated more frequently.

 If the young person feels particularly vulnerable it may be that a risk assessment can be put in place for them whilst in school so that they have someone named that they can talk to, support strategies for managing future issues and identified services to offer additional support.

 For the young person who has displayed harmful behaviour

 In this circumstance it is important to find out why the young person has behaved in such a way.  It may be that the young person is experiencing their own difficulties and may even have been harmed themselves in a similar way.  In such cases support such as one to one mentoring or counselling may also be necessary. Particular support from identified services may be necessary through a CAF/strengthening families/early help referral and the young person may require additional support from family members.

 Once the support required to meet the individual needs of the young person has been met, it is important that young person receives a consequence for their behaviour. This may be in the form of restorative justice e.g. making amends with the young person they have targeted if this has been some form of bullying.  In the cases of sexually harmful behaviour it may be a requirement for the young person to engage in one to one work with a particular service or agency (if a crime has been committed this may be through the police or youth offending service). If there is any form of criminal investigation ongoing it may be that this young person cannot be educated on site until the investigation has concluded.  In that case, the young person will need to be provided with appropriate support and education whilst off site.

Even following the conclusion of any investigation the behaviour that the young person has displayed may continue to pose a risk to others in which case an individual risk assessment may be required.  This should be completed via a multi-agency response to ensure that the needs of the young person and the risks towards others are measured by all of those agencies involved including the young person and their parents.  This may mean additional supervision of the young person or protective strategies if the young person feels at risk of engaging in further inappropriate or harmful behaviour.

 The school may also choose a punishment as a consequence such as exclusion or internal exclusion/inclusion/seclusion for a period of time to allow the young person to reflect on their behaviour.

 After care

 It is important that following the incident the young people involved continue to feel supported and receive help even if they have stated that they are managing the incident.  Sometimes the feelings of remorse, regret or unhappiness may occur at a much later stage than the incident.  It is important to ensure that the young people do not engage in any further harmful behaviour either towards someone else or to themselves as a way of coping (e.g. self-harm).  In which case, regular reviews with the young people following the incident(s) are imperative.

 Preventative Strategies for IGS: Durham

 We will do all within our power to develop appropriate strategies in order to prevent the issue of peer on peer abuse rather than manage the issues in a reactive way. 

 Firstly, and most importantly we recognise that peer on peer abuse can and will occur in any school even with the most stringent policies, the most positive ethos and excellent support mechanisms.  This means that it is important for us all to continue to recognise and manage risk in this area and to learn how to improve and move forward with strategies to encourage young people to talk about issues; and that we are good at sharing information between us. 

 To achieve this, we will seek to ensure that IGS: Durham has an open environment where young people feel safe to share information about anything that is upsetting or worrying them.  This can be strengthened through our strong and positive PSHE curriculum (together with assemblies, circle time etc.) that tackles issues such as prejudiced behaviour and gives children an open forum to talk things through rather than seek opportunities to be harmful to one another.

 To enable such an open and honest environment we will aim to make sure that all staff feel confident and able to talk about issues and challenge the perceptions and attitudes of young people including where relevant their use of inappropriate language and behaviour towards one another.  In order to create such an environment, we will undertake whole staff training and CPD around abusive behaviours and talking to young people in a way that continues to create an open and honest environment without prejudice.  We will never dismiss issues as “banter” or “growing up” or compare them to our own experiences of childhood, when the world was very different.  All IGS: Durham staff must consider each situation in its own right before taking action.  If we minimise the concerns raised it may result in a young person seeking no further help or advice and their predicament becoming far worse.

 Finally, it is useful to ensure young people play a part in changing their circumstances and even some of the procedures within school.  In the early days of IGS: Durham we do not propose a school council, but as we expand we will keep that in mind and judge when such a thing might be appropriate.  Staff will encourage openness as part of their pastoral role as a classroom/form teacher and circle time and similar occasions will be managed sensitively and staff will be vigilant in picking up signs of issues.  The school Behaviour Policy, which emphasises the recognising and rewarding of good behaviour, will help, too, in clarifying for children what good behaviour in line with the school’s values (CREATE) looks like and where the boundaries lie.


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